I'm not making assumptions about his sex life or what you're calling mistreatment. That was a conversational pause engineered to allow response.

[ His tone there is dry, but it is wholly self-depreciating. He knows he either clams up or lectures. And deliberately makes himself pause. Usually in bad places.

Also that he's terrible at making himself understood, so:]

Cutting through the unnecessary prequel: We're not one unit, but we're mostly fucked up in a wide variety of ways. Akihiro's... admirable and remarkable for a lot of reasons. I like him, a lot. You're a good guy. I'm glad you care this much. I will point you at a heavy bag to vent it out physically, any time. Hell, I'll be the punching bag if you want a bigger challenge.

But you need to be able to either look for that outlet when you need it or be able to let shit go, sometimes.